Dear Bitter Single Guy: I have recently developed a crush on this guy. We both attend the same college. He’s very sweet, and we seem to have good conversations whenever we get to speak to one another. The only problem is that I’m having a hard time trying to figure out if he likes me or is just being nice. Sometimes it feels as if he really enjoys talking to me and is interested in me but then again, he hasn’t made a move and doesn’t seem to plan on doing so in the near future. I’ve heard that a guy just isn’t interested if he hasn’t made the first move no matter how shy he may be. What do you think? ~Ready for the Next Move~
Dear RFNM: Firstly the Bitter Single Guy wants to say that there is no rule that applies to all guys (not girls though…they’re really straightforward and easy to figure out). That said, it’s usually a good rule of thumb to believe that if a guy (or girl) likes you then he’ll actually make some move in that direction. Otherwise, you have either a guy who is really wishy-washy (“sure, I’ll go out if you want to, whatever.”) or a guy who is really painfully shy.
So the real question RFNM is whether you’re willing to get involved in a guy who is wishy-washy or is painfully shy?
All this aside, the BSG recommends (as he recommends to many folks) that you just ask the damned question. “Hey Dude. You’re sweet and I like chatting with you. What do you think about going out on a date sometime this week?” The worse that can happen is that he will freak out and decline and then the only thing you’ve really lost is several more weeks (months?) of confusion.