Give the right impression?
An iron hand in a velvet glove
The dance Therapy
Communication, consent and connection
Women need to know when NOT to do as they're told!
The dance of consent
When I buy her something she's happy for a midday and then she's back to her usual state.
'Niels'
by a Taken In Hand reader on 2006 Feb 23 - 19:27 | reply to this comment
To Niels
I know my husband feels that way about me sometimes. When he's trying to talk to me and I'm reading or watching TV or on the computer, "You're not listening to a bloody word I say, are you?" he says in exasperation. "Yes, I am" I say, whereupon he usually demands that I repeat what he has just said (occasionally I can).
I mean, I don't ignore my husband on purpose, but often I am just absorbed in something else. Is this how your wife is, or is she really not interested in paying attention to you even she is aware that you want her to? If so, maybe you need to discuss with her what is wrong.you shouldn't have to buy her something to get her affection and attention. I like it if my husband buys me something (though actually I prefer shopping for myself), but it's not among the things he does for me that most inspires affection in me.
If you're not happy with the way things are you should talk to her about it. I used to keep things that bothered me to myself and not talk about them, but in the end I found it was much better if I did talk about them. You have the right to expect more from your wife than you would from a plant.
by Louise C on 2006 Feb 24 - 03:27 | reply to this comment
I know the feeling